Do I have a laugh within me?

I love watching comedy shows, I love attending stand-up comedy, I love these romantic/ thriller/ action movies/soaps/ serials. It's common to like something that is viewed on the TV or attend a movie or play or festival of a genre. What we fail to understand is why we like these genres?

The different genres showcase a part of us that we miss, we want it in our lives but are too scared to follow it through. We may need some action, love, relationship, hate, anguish in different forms but are never able to make it possible.

Do we try to ask ourselves this question? Is this what I would like to do in my life? Why would I spend time listening to songs that are depressing or movies that make me miserable. Knowing or unknowingly we always put ourselves into harms way by pushing the envelope too far. We ourselves are not able to gauge the damage we do when we align ourselves to the ego of our body.

The soul has no attachment to the material side of life hence is always happy. The body has the sense of anger, frustration, depression, happiness, joy, sorrow, etc. These emotions are a result of our body creating a sense of loss in our minds and that doesn't allow us to control our environment. When we loose our control we create an imbalance in our emotions. This leads to that emptiness to be filled with your spike in anger, frustration, depression, etc.

The body is the second signal that will tell you how your emotions hurt you. Most cancer patients have an imbalance of anger within them. Thyroid and lower back patients are ones with submerged resentment. There are many more such examples which I will share and you may read in the next write up for your reference.

The point is, do we ask ourselves whether we are leading a soul fulfilment life or a life of mine and yours?

Do we do things that make us happy or give glory to our ego to build its esteem?

All these questions surely do have answers, but the answers are unique for each individual and cannot be generalised to make it a group answer.

Questions we can ask the person in the mirror will give us a standing ovation when the gates of heaven open and we have to walk through.

Life

Life is a series of actions, these actions causes a reaction and the cycle continues.

Birth is the beginning of life, we are groomed into the houses that we are brought up in. These houses are moulded by the society it dwells in. The society moulded by the state and the state by the country.

The countries then try to copy or create a new way of living for the others to follow or will follow another countries ways of life. The young forget their past and look to be someone they are not.

These instances are happening world over and are very generalistic.

Life has become a barter. We have to give to get, and to get you have to be able to demand and ask for what could be yours. Money has become the instrument of love, friendship and other relations.

A person today is not judged by his/ her character but the bank balance the he chooses to keep. The host of a party is the one who is the most loved. The giver of freebies is the best politician. The makers of wealth are the most revered.

These days life has come to be economic for families to forget about the basic needs of each family. There is a need to be rich and satisfied, that some parents forget that a child only requires their time and love. There is no need of the other fancies that we think are a need for the child.

Life! Is it then a boon or a bane?

A question that only we can answer when we have the need to make it either. We can choose to be happy through out our days without any worry or we can choose to life a stress and troubled life.

Guess, who is deciding for us?

Am I happy?

I often meet people who smile at all their challenges in life and absorb the stress. But many a times I also meet people who are not able to take the challenges in life and go into moods of frustration, depression, anxiety, anger, stress.

In my search for the answers of life and helping others, I realised one basic feature that was common in all the people who were not able to manage their challenges. This one feature of their lives was completely missed out and they were in a state of confusion which led them to believe that they are sick.

Added to this, the medical fraternity never tries to understand the need of the individual to earn the extra money. They are always trying to find ways to ask the person to come back for another session, another test, another meeting. While I do not brand them wrong, I have a view that we can have a better solution for these individuals. There are many options and some are as simple as the one feature of their lives which they forgot to focus on.

This feature that they missed out on is, their self. All the individuals who I met have knowledge of the world and their surroundings but were never in-sync with the knowledge of themselves. They took time to think what their favourite colours were, what foods they would like to eat, what time of day was their favourite and many more aspects of their lives  in the category of likes and dislikes. 

These individuals were not sure who they were themselves. They had dedicated their lives in the others benefits or keeping the family, friend or associate happy that they forgot their own happiness.

There is thin line between being selfish and being happy for the self. The matter has a simple judgement, " You cannot share happiness, if you are sad". I would ask some of the people who were in the saddened state to tell me a joke or to try to make me laugh. It was invariably impossible for them to do so.

The only step that is available for all of us to keep ourselves happy is to look in the mirror and praise the person there. Give the person the credit that he/she is breathing, the heart is beating, the blood is flowing.

If you know a person who is in a saddened state in life, ask them to notice the beautiful lines of their palms. This is a relaxing method used for most people in the years gone by before Modern medicine had its feet in the sand.

Looking at the palms of your hands gives you the sense of amazement to the wonder of creation. The lines on the palms are your guide to life. Watch it and get amazed at what you are going to know of your self. The difference in your life is in your hands.