Am I happy?

I often meet people who smile at all their challenges in life and absorb the stress. But many a times I also meet people who are not able to take the challenges in life and go into moods of frustration, depression, anxiety, anger, stress.

In my search for the answers of life and helping others, I realised one basic feature that was common in all the people who were not able to manage their challenges. This one feature of their lives was completely missed out and they were in a state of confusion which led them to believe that they are sick.

Added to this, the medical fraternity never tries to understand the need of the individual to earn the extra money. They are always trying to find ways to ask the person to come back for another session, another test, another meeting. While I do not brand them wrong, I have a view that we can have a better solution for these individuals. There are many options and some are as simple as the one feature of their lives which they forgot to focus on.

This feature that they missed out on is, their self. All the individuals who I met have knowledge of the world and their surroundings but were never in-sync with the knowledge of themselves. They took time to think what their favourite colours were, what foods they would like to eat, what time of day was their favourite and many more aspects of their lives  in the category of likes and dislikes. 

These individuals were not sure who they were themselves. They had dedicated their lives in the others benefits or keeping the family, friend or associate happy that they forgot their own happiness.

There is thin line between being selfish and being happy for the self. The matter has a simple judgement, " You cannot share happiness, if you are sad". I would ask some of the people who were in the saddened state to tell me a joke or to try to make me laugh. It was invariably impossible for them to do so.

The only step that is available for all of us to keep ourselves happy is to look in the mirror and praise the person there. Give the person the credit that he/she is breathing, the heart is beating, the blood is flowing.

If you know a person who is in a saddened state in life, ask them to notice the beautiful lines of their palms. This is a relaxing method used for most people in the years gone by before Modern medicine had its feet in the sand.

Looking at the palms of your hands gives you the sense of amazement to the wonder of creation. The lines on the palms are your guide to life. Watch it and get amazed at what you are going to know of your self. The difference in your life is in your hands.